What is a wonderful gift you can give to yourself?

Get to know your emotions and learn how to release them.

Doing this will help you in every area of your life.

When you’re able to know and release your emotions, you experience a sense of calm in both body and mind. Being calm allows you to focus on things most important to you. It helps you to engage in a loving way with the people in your life. You can step back and have a clear look at what’s ahead of you.

When you repress your emotions, you hold them in your body and mind. They stay inside and surface in a myriad of ways. You experience fatigue, anxiety, frustration, and overwhelm. You feel physically tense. Your thoughts are all over the place and your mind plays lots of negative stories. These symptoms affect all that you do– including the quality of your relationships.

What makes the difference between the two – calm and busyness? A reliable, personalized process. I’ve found that following these 3 simple steps provide a stable framework. Review the steps below and customize in a way that works for you.

Three Steps to Release Your Emotions

1. Recognize when you’re feeling an emotion

With any sense of unease, stop and notice. Rather than rushing into that next meeting, going to the gym, browsing social media– take time to accept that a difficult emotion is arising. It helps to bring awareness through focusing on your breath. Another method thats helpful is to scan your body for any areas of unease. This is a great practice to do when you wake up or before you go to bed.

2. Give a name to the emotion your feeling

Once you’re aware of an emotion, sit with it and learn it’s nature. Is it anger, fear, shame, guilt? Being able to put a name to it brings a sense of comfort and familiarity. You’ll notice that you have some go-to emotions. My favorites are fear disguised as anxiety and anger disguised as irritation.  What are yours? (See examples here.)

3. Express the emotion

You can productively express your emotions in many ways. I began to learn how to express my own emotions by journaling. It’s a safe environment as it’s just you, a pen, and a notebook. I tend to ask the emotion questions to understand it’s nature. There are many practices that can be used alone or in combination with each other – breathing, drawing, meditating, walking, coaching. You’ll find that certain practices resonate more for you than others. Experiment and learn what works best for you.

These steps take practice. Be easy on yourself. Having the ability to just notice that you’re experiencing an emotion is an important step. Take your time to discover the benefits of emotional release. Look for opportunities to learn more and continue to customize.

How does knowing you can create your own reliable process for releasing your emotions support you now?